“Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.
Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.“
I’ve recently seen a lot of negative posts on social media about marriage and I am typically not one of those people who leave comments/opinions on someone else’s post regarding personal feelings or views. So I figured, why not share my feelings and thoughts on here with all of you! 🙂
First things first, I was one of those people who grew up never seeing a successful marriage. Every marriage in my family ended, so for me it was always odd when I saw people who were married for 20, 30 & 40 years. I guess you can kinda say that and my relationship with God made me want that type of long lasting relationship. But I can totally understand how it may cause a person to become “anti-marriage”.
If you feel “anti-marriage” or just unsure that marriage is worth it, or maybe your married and your going through a rough time right now. I truly hope you keep reading this.
As of today, I have been married for five years to an amazing man! I’m going to share with you some of the things I’ve learned in those five years that have helped me as a wife and helped my marriage . MARRIAGE IS NOT FOR THE LAZY! I was so lazy in the beginning of my marriage because I assumed since we had been together for four years at that point I didn’t really have to do much work anymore. You still have to put in work and remember to acknowledge your partner. You can’t expect longevity if your lazy. GOOD COMMUNICATION IS A MUST! I grew up in an argumentative environment and that was a huge problem for my marriage because my husband does not like to argue at all. I had to learn how to communicate in an effective way for him to hear me out. Honestly, healthy communication is so important. MARRIAGE REQUIRES WORK! You have to be open to putting forth the effort to have a successful marriage. The bible says, “Two will become one flesh”. You become a team that has to learn how to work together to build that solid relationship. BE CAREFUL WHO YOU LET IN YOUR MARRIAGE! This literally was a huge problem for me because I would often seek advise from people who didn’t have my best interest at heart. People who weren’t married and didn’t see things the way I saw them. ITS SO TOXIC FOR YOUR MARRIAGE!! So examine your friends, family, co-workers, whoever you talk to before you seek counsel from them and make sure they are truly there to support you. PRAY FOR YOUR SPOUSE! I remember talking to my mom about something that was happening during the first year of my marriage and she asked me, “Do you pray for him”. I was confused by her question and said, “No, I pray for me”. I learned that there is power in a woman who prays for her husband and I have prayed for him ever since. Lastly, DON’T GIVE UP! This is probably a hard one because as humans we don’t like to be uncomfortable. We don’t like to go through. I feel like it’s just so much easier to give up on a hard situation. But I can assure you my first year of marriage was the WORST. I wanted to give up, he wanted to give up but we didn’t. It is so rewarding now to look back and see how far we have come. It’s not easy, it’s not a walk in the park but it is ultimately one of the most beautiful things I have experienced.
I know this is a long post but I wanted to be raw and uncut. Hopefully it will be beneficial to someone that reads it and I hope you think twice before throwing marriage out the window. Just like any relationship and friendship work is required.
Until next time.